So, I’ve decided that I would like to request that adoptive parents refrain from commenting, particularly on posts that are password protected. If you don’t like that policy then tough cookies. As far as I see it, I have given you the privilege of being allowed to read these posts. Furthermore, to sound like a 5 year old, this is my blog, so ultimately, I can manage it any way I choose.
Honestly, adoptive parents’ comments rarely come off as anything but patronizing at best, and at worst, they come off as self-justifying, defensive, and dismissive.
This blog is to be a safe place for adoptees to be able to say whatever the heck they want, and quite honestly adoptive parents’ comments most often undermine and interrupt this goal.
So, please, AP’s, refrain from commenting. I think it’s a good practice to embrace. Not only do your voices get heard the majority of the time, but I think it might do you a bit of good to know what it feels like to have to listen without having the opportunity to interject.
And just so you know, if you find yourself unable to exert enough self-control to hold back, then I will exert my right to screen your comment.
It’s not that I won’t engage with you, but that is not the purpose of this blog. If I choose to give you the password, it’s only because I think it’s important for you to have insight into an adult adoptee’s experience and perspective, not because I want to hear what you have to say.
So, please, unless you have something to contribute that is truly edifying to adoptees, I kindly ask you to hold back your comments. As I stated above, I may opt to screen AP’s if I find comments unproductive to the goal of this blog.
And yes, this blog is completely biased toward adult adoptees, and specifically adult adoptees who might not always have pretty things to say about their adoption experiences. If you don’t like it, then you don’t have to read it. I’m not trying to be a jerk, but I also have the right to run this blog the way I want to. There are plenty of AP-friendly blogs.
I’m not anti-AP. (I actually love my adoptive parents.) I just don’t want this blog to turn into a forum for the defense of AP perspectives. Again, there are plenty of blogs that already meet that need.
Thank you for your understanding. You can always email me directly at konoyoomo@gmail.com, but please let adoptees voice their experiences here without AP’s always chucking their two cents at us. We already have an endless mountain of your two cents to overcome.
